Real Self-Care for Mother’s Day: Setting Boundaries
Dear Mothers, As Mother's Day approaches, you will probably receive lots of kind messages and gifts. It may seem as if this is the only day you are seen and validated. Strong family bonds usually are a good sign. However, when they are "too close for comfort”, you often get tangled up in enmeshment in which your identity becomes wrapped up in meeting others' needs. Your life goals are thwarted, which...
Imposter Phenomenon：Facing Fears of Inadequacy and Self-Doubt Part II
Last time we introduced, impostor syndrome, today let's talk about the cause, conquering impostor feelings and how we deal with it. Causes The initial causes of IP often come at a young age. And it often has to do with relationships with primary caregivers and important adults in our lives. A parenting style that is highly achievement-oriented and highly critical. This pattern is a setup for being high-achieving and driven but also...
Facing Fears of Inadequacy and Self-Doubt Part I
Introduction - What is the imposter phenomenon？Have you ever felt fearful about making a mistake or anxious about being seen as incompetent in your roles? You may be experiencing Impostor Phenomenon (IP) if you: are constantly experiencing intense feelings thinking that your achievements are undeserved attribute success to external factors unrelated to the ability experience subsequent procrastination and self-sabotaging. The clinical symptoms frequently reported are: generalized anxiety, lack of self-confidence, depression, and frustration. These...
Freeing ourselves from the complex that binds us
Every crisis entails opportunity – the father complex that binds us and how do we break this strain? In “Enough as you are: believe in yourself": we like to think we can accomplish anything if we set our minds to it, still clients such as Valerie came to the clinic citing: anxiety attacks with feelings of inadequacy, rumination, persistent worry were the chief complaints. She further states, there is an inner...
Enough as You Are
“Believe in yourself!” We like to think we can accomplish anything if we believe in ourselves. What matters is the proactive mindset. BUT! Somehow deep inside, your gut tells you, Nah. I am not up for the challenges and I am just not good enough. So, what is happening here? Those gut feelings are originated from "low self-esteem." In psychology, self-esteem refers to a person's self-worth. how much a person “values, approves of, appreciates, prizes,...