Enjoy Today by Finding Security Within: Tips for Adjusting to Life in Shanghai

As human beings, we often seek security and safety from the outside world. We tend to think that if we control our environment, people or situations outside us, we might feel secure. Yet, when we try, we realize two important things; one is that we cannot control situations or people and the other being that any sense of that type of control is fleeting. For expats who have relocated to Shanghai, this can be a particular struggle. There is so much that feels out of our control and all of the changes and new experiences can overwhelm someone who seeks external control.

Security must grow inside of us. It is a state of mind we develop internally. It doesn’t depend on the external world, people or our current situation. It depends on awareness and the ability to be present so that we allow ourselves to experience any given moment.

If we move in sync with the flow of the universe rather than try to fight and control it, we can realize mental, emotional and spiritual well-being. We will be in tune with that reassuring place that exists inside of us and be in tune with its sense of security. Adapting to life as an expat in Shanghai (or any major life change or relocation) truly requires this shift of perception and behavior. Those who can put this into practice will thrive in their new environment.

I work with many clients on developing that inner sense of security and presence in the moment. As they adjust to life in Shanghai, changing roles and relationships, we work together on shifting belief systems and behaviors that are fostering insecurity. It requires consciousness and practice, but here are some tips you can implement today:

• Smile, detach yourself from the past and related anger/tension.
• Be aware of the hidden lessons in daily situations.
• Love and embrace yourself just the way you are.
• Listen to your body.
• Be honest and say no if you need to.
• Be aware that the future doesn’t exist now, so worrying about it is a frivolous waste of time and energy.
• Do not compare yourself with anyone.
• Remind yourself that you are already perfect; you are part of this diverse and fascinating world, living your unique human experience.
• Remember, there’s only one today.

Bibiana is a holistic psychologist who combines clinical psychology, psycho genealogy (family tree) and alternative techniques such as chakras harmonization, energy healing and cleansing to treat her patients. She also specializes in solving work related conflicts through her work developing psychometric tests, psychological interviews and communicative and motivational strategies for corporations. For a consultation with Bibiana, contact Body & Soul to make an appointment at one of our Shanghai clinics. Bibiana speaks English and Spanish.